Domestic violence is a pattern of relationship behavior used for power and control over an intimate partner. Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, marital status, economic or social background, education, religion or gender.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:
Protect Yourself with a PROTECTIVE ORDER
OFP: An order for protection, OFP, is an order signed by a judge requiring abusers to stop the abuse or face serious legal consequences. The judge can order your abuser not to contact you and to stay away from your house or work. An OFP can be given even if the abuser is a family or household member and there are incidents of domestic abuse. The OFP can last for two years unless the judge extends it.
How to get an OFP: Victims go to court and file appropriate paperwork. Judges will issue a temporary protection order if they find there is an immediate danger of abuse. Full protection orders are issued after a court hearing with both parties. The filing fee can be waived for low-income victims.
HRO: A harassment restraining order, HRO, is an order from the court that instructs the harasser to stop harassing you and to have no contact with you. If you are not eligible for an OFP, you may be eligible for an HRO. Anyone who is the victim of harassment can file an HRO. You do not need to have a personal experience with your harasser. An HRO will generally last up to two years.
How to get an HRO: victims go to court and file appropriate paperwork. The filing fee can be waived for low-income victims.
DA-NCO: A domestic abuse-no contact order, DA-NCO, is issued by the court. It can be ordered during a criminal proceeding for domestic abuse, harassment or stalking of a family or household member, violation of an OFP, or violation of a prior no-contact order.
Place of Protection
Cornerstone is a safe place for victims of domestic violence. Their services include advocacy, safe housing, support groups, and counseling. They also have legal help, youth-based services, and cultural specific services.
If you are feeling unsafe, call 1(866) 223-1111. This directly connects the caller to Minnesota Day One Crisis Hotline that will connect the person to a safe place or receive services.